9 Simple Dating Tips for a Lasting Relationship 💞

Even though Valentine’s Day has already passed, I believe that every couple who wants a long-lasting relationship should keep working to strengthen their bond.

Dating plays a very important role in building that connection — so here are some simple dating tips from me that might help you enjoy every moment together!

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1. Always Wear Something Comfortable 👗

Of course, you want to make a great impression on your date. But remember, looking good doesn’t mean suffering all night! It’s not fun trying to sit through dinner in a dress that’s too tight or walking in shoes that hurt.
So, choose something that makes you feel confident and comfortable — that’s the real key to looking attractive.

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2. Have Fun! 😄

Sometimes we overthink how we look or what our partner might think, and it makes us act awkwardly. Relax! Enjoy the moment, laugh, and have fun. Dating should be about sharing joy, not stress.

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3. Be Honest 💬

Honesty is the foundation of every lasting relationship — whether you’re dating or already married. Always be truthful, because honesty is the best policy and the secret to real trust.

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4. Trust Your Instinct 💖

When it comes to love, trust your gut feeling. If you feel a little nervous but excited, that’s often a good sign! Follow your heart — it usually knows what’s right.

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5. Be Yourself 🌷

Don’t pretend to be someone else just to impress your date. Be genuine. If you act like another person, the relationship won’t last. Treat your partner the way you want to be treated — that’s the golden rule of love.

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6. Be a Good Listener 👂

Everyone wants someone who truly listens. Show that you care by paying attention to what your partner says — it builds deeper understanding and emotional connection.

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7. Be a “Boredom Breaker” 🎲

Dates should be fun! If your partner feels bored the whole time, they might not want another date. Keep things light, interesting, and full of laughter. Small surprises or funny conversations can make a big difference.

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8. Don’t Talk About Your Ex 🚫

Avoid talking about your ex, especially on a first date. It can make things uncomfortable and ruin the mood. Focus on the present and enjoy the person who’s in front of you right now.

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9. Treat Your Partner Well 💝

Treat your partner the way you want to be treated — with kindness, respect, and care. Small gestures of love can mean a lot.

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Those are some dating tips from me! I actually have more ideas to share, but I’m a bit sleepy right now 😴 — so I’ll save the rest for another post.

Hope these tips are useful for you. Enjoy your dates, have fun, and always keep love simple and sincere! 💕

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How to Attract a Woman (The Right Way) 💫

Many men make mistakes when they try to approach or date a woman. Sometimes, it’s not because they don’t try—but because they don’t really understand what creates genuine attraction.

So, what’s the secret to attracting a woman?

Actually, it’s simpler than you think. You don’t need strange techniques or fake behavior. The key is learning how to express your natural personality in a way that feels confident, relaxed, and genuine.

In this article, I want to share some simple but effective ways to build attraction in a natural and respectful way.

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1. Be Humorous 😄

One of the most attractive qualities in a man is a good sense of humor.

Women generally love someone who can make them smile, laugh, and feel comfortable. Humor creates a positive emotional connection, and that’s what makes conversations memorable.

But remember—being funny doesn’t mean trying too hard.

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2. Don’t Try Too Hard to Be Funny

You don’t need to act like a clown just to make her laugh.

When someone tries too hard, it becomes obvious—and it can feel uncomfortable. Instead, keep your humor natural. Let it come from your personality, your observations, and your way of seeing things.

Confidence is more attractive than forced jokes.

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3. Make Humor Part of You

A good sense of humor should feel natural, not something you “put on.”

It’s not about telling jokes all the time—it’s about having a light, playful attitude. Sometimes, a simple comment or a small tease can create a smile.

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4. Use Playful Teasing (Gently) 😉

Playful teasing can make interactions more fun and engaging—if done respectfully.

You can:

• Give her a sweet or funny nickname (when appropriate)
• Compliment her in a light, playful way
• Joke about small things she says
• Use expressive body language and facial expressions

The goal is not to tease in a hurtful way, but to create a relaxed and enjoyable vibe.

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5. Enjoy the Moment

Attraction grows when both people feel comfortable and happy.

So enjoy your time with her. Don’t overthink every word or action. When you’re relaxed, confident, and genuinely having fun, she will feel it too.

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6. Be Respectful and Genuine

This is the most important part.

Attraction is not about tricks or manipulation. It’s about connection. Respect her, listen to her, and be yourself.

When you are authentic, people feel it—and that’s what creates real attraction.

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Final Thoughts 💭

At the end of the day, attracting someone is not about “playing games.”
It’s about creating a connection, sharing positive energy, and being comfortable in your own skin.

So relax, be yourself, and let your natural charm do the work.

Because the best kind of attraction… is the one that feels real

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What to prepare before married?

What to prepare before married is not something to prepare for the wedding day but what to prepare for the status after become married. Just like to travel to other place married need a lot preparation because all people hope that they will marry only just once time in their life. This preparation is to prepare our mental because married without mental preparation will damage the lives of your household. Couples who get married without proper preparation would be potentially in conflict constantly, and could end up in divorce. This could be due to the vision and mission of the inequality in marriage. What should have a partner to prepare before marriage?

1. Self-control of emotions
Before deciding to get married, you should identify your emotions and also the level of partner. Introduction emotional level will help you manage your emotions so as not to be drawn. I asked many married couple mostly woman because they were more emotional that they feel after married everything feel so different than before married, further more after they get baby for first time the mother feel that they need more self control. They said that married is like to increase patient for 1000x even you chance to other partner it will always happen so be ready for it.

2. Communication
Ask the receipt of lasting married to some grandmas, they said that communication is very important part and key to have lasting married. Communication should not be done verbally, but also through touch, a smile, a joke, a comment, a desire to listen to each other and support each other. Even more important, communication is not just a hobby or something to ask what her favorite food, but also recognize the emotional needs. Try to communicate as well as possible by using a heart. Show genuine affection and do a lot of complaining on the couple.

3. Conflict resolution
Conflict is common thing because everyone has differences. A must-have partner before marriage is the ability to resolve conflict. All things considered initially completed and according to the way "you and him", but when she got married everything must come to an end by means of "us". That is, if the original decision was based on each individual desire, when already married decisions must be based on a common desire. The ability to resolve conflicts that satisfy both parties is necessary to maintain domestic harmony. Often couples still have a high ego and will not budge because they think that the way to overcome the problem is most excellent.

4. Always self-oriented learning
Self-oriented learning is also other receipt that suggested by grandmas so it is important key too. Usually when beloved late to pick up or cancel a date will make you think all sorts. Well, the thought of this kind must be removed when you are married. Too many negative thoughts will make you suspicious and do not believe the couple. In fact, all the suspicions are not necessarily unfounded. Disbelief this could be the destruction of the embryo-common household. In addition to positive thinking as married couples try to appreciate and respond to the success and failure of a couple with the view that it is a self-learning process.

And girls and boys understand it but there no one is perfect and your desire level to someone won't always same, everything will up and down because it is life. Hope who reach this blog will be happy married couple and lasting till die.

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Dating tips for "Single Mom"

To be a single mom sometime dilemma, as a single mom you still need other half and your kids need a father profile too. But when a single mom opened up to build a new relationship, but have a child who is still dependent and demanding attention, some doubt or confusion to start dating. To stay comfortable dating while raising your child, make sure you have the following attitude:

1. Acceptance.
If you are going through a divorce, try to accept the reality of marriage that can not be maintained, whatever the story behind it. That way you can live a new life with the baby, the most precious gift from your previous marriage. Acceptance as this will make it easier for you to build a healthier relationship, both with kids and the new man in your life. Includes easy when you have to start dating, and involving children in new relationships.

2. Decent happy.
Do not limit yourself, that your life now is just for kids, then ignore your personal life. Also notice your personal life does not mean ignoring the baby. You can still pay attention to him, but also open up a new man. Do not also think there will be no men who are interested in with a single mom. Actually think the opposite, that man would be lucky to get you, with children as a bonus. You and your child are an inseparable package. Believe me, you deserve to be happy, appreciated, loved not only by children but also by your other men.

3. Do not rush.
Introduce him to your child gradually. Do not rush to introduce it to your child. Not easy for your child to receive another man close to you, but not his father. Also not necessarily easy for him to familiarize yourself with your child. Just enjoy the time together dating for several months, before finally going along with your child. With a gradual process, both him and your child, as well as yourself will be better prepared to live this new life.

4. Show the facts.
Indicate your life for what it is. That you are a single parent who is busy taking care of things alone. Including if the relationship and communication with ex-husband still poses a number of problems. That way he will see for themselves the facts of your life. With hope, he's able to understand how the hustle bustle of the world you are, and if indeed she loved sincerely, he will accept and adjust to your life. If he can understand your world, it will be easy for you to approach him with the little guy.

5. Let he was dating you and your child.
When you and he's ready, take your child on a date with. Spend time together. You may feel nervous about the situation. Especially if your child suddenly cranky, then corrupted your date. Discard all your worries and just enjoy the time together. Let him adjust to you and your child. When deciding a date, give the new man in your life for you and your child dating. Instead you can judge the sincerity of his love of dating with children.

6. Be honest.
Be honest about your expectations of the relationship. If you want a serious relationship, express. Thus, from the beginning, you and him together to build a relationship with a common purpose. You and he will also be easier to agree on how much energy and time that could be "invested" for the sake of the relationship.

7. Be yourself.
Building a new relationship with creating new hope. Do not ruin a new hope, hurt, because he does not love you or what it is. No need to be someone else, or want him to be the ideal man that you desire. Love him what it is, and vice versa, he should love you for what it is.

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Different age in relationship

I have a parent with age spacing different about 10 years, my father is older than my mom and I have an aunt married with a man that 12 years younger than her but when they old they look old together maybe no one realize that age differences between them to far. But sometime I see my aunt act like childish and her husband

look like more mature than her. And about my mom and my dad, I didn't know how their relationship in new married status but according my mom story my father was still like to hanging with his friend a lot than caring about his family. Ya.. maybe my father was not take much about father responsibility, it is something odd or maybe it is that said as a balance and don't see how mature a person by their age but by their attitude, solving problem, act and how they are thinking.

Ya... We can not manage with whom we fall in love and then decide to marry, as they say. So, without your prior plan now you have had a relationship with a man/woman much older or maybe much younger than you. Suddenly, everyone was paying attention to you as aware of the difference in appearance between the two of you. When you have walks with your love then some people maybe thinking that you take a walk not with your love one but with your mother/father or brother/sister. Well, no matter what the perception of others about your relationship. Even more importantly, how to live a relationship with a man/woman whose age is much different than your age. Because the age difference will give a big issue for you in life. You need to know how to bridge the gap. Here are some tips about age different in relationship:

Do you match?

Much age difference shows that have different stages of life. Interest and purpose of your life is different. Something that opposites do attract, but what if you and he/she are so opposite? When you decided to have a relationship with a man/woman who is much older, or much younger, make sure that you have a common ground. You both have something that is "disconnected", so you can find a connection with each other. If you manage to find it, the relationship is not impossible to run smoothly. If the intersection is not the case, you better leave.

Talk

When a new relationship is still running, it would probably begin to mention your children and family. Impression, you are in a hurry to marry him. However, if your relationship involves much age difference, talks about the need to be leveled. 

When he's/she's much older, he/she may be ready to get married and have children. Or conversely, when she/he had been married and have children, there is a possibility that he/she just does not want to rush to get married and have more children. So, you have to know how her/his readiness. For that, you need to talk and talk. Is there a future for the two of you? When you know about it from the beginning, you will not be surprised when one day he refused to marry you.

Experience

If you are young and inexperienced about sex, you might be a little worried that she's/he's able to meet the expectations of a much older man/woman. But you need not worry. Sex will always be different for each person. Not necessarily better or worse, but certainly no different. However, having sex with you it will be her/his first experience. So, both of you will still learn something new.

Indeed, sex will be very challenging because you both will mutually explore each other. You do not have to worry about whether or not he/she had ever had to do something. All you need to do is to experiment to find what she/he likes, and of course what you like.

Family

Well, this is more difficult. Families can be a big problem, because when the he/she was a widower You will be dealing well with his ex-wife/her ex-husband, ex-law, or maybe his/her brothers/sisters. When he's/she's a successful man/woman, you may be accused of materialistic by the immediate family. Therefore, when you meet with your family to be polite, and show that you are independent women/man who love their children.

What about your own family? How to explain to them that you are not one choose? Talk openly with them, and explain how it makes you happy. Families may not be immediate liking your choice, but when you and he/she can prove that you are serious about each other, slowly they will accept your relationship.

Go with it

Most important of all, just live what you believe. Do not be too concerned about what people say others. You will definitely hear other people talk about you, but believe that your happiness is the most important. Focus on small world you create with she/him, and let all the talk about your tilted away by itself.

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It's too late, don't ever say a joke which become your big mistake that you will regret forever

So long not updating this blog when I choose to stay in silence. There is something that I want to write in here in this blog. Don't judge anything in here because it is my personal blog, I can write whatever I want and I think it is not harmful anyone.

Its still about my x who just asked me to be his love again but I said to him that it's late. Ya.. It is late to ask me to comeback to him after the pains and hurts, it is too late when I already feel that everything is fine without him. Ya it is too late when I did asked many times that it was joke but he pretend say nothing.

If you were me, your bf said that he will marry next month and after that everything is like upside down, falling and gloomy, don't want to talk to anyone and regret every sacrifices, it was pain because he didn't say anything about that girl except she is better in everything on me. Do you will accept him again if all that he said it was joke after 7 months missing contact? I rejected it, because it is too late. I don't see there is a beautiful about him anymore maybe it was too hurt because he did that when I was busy preparing my final project in the last chance of the reporting and beside that I was busy preparing my sister wedding too. I was asked 1 month to break to prepare all of that but he was refused that so I was still trying to divide my attention to him. Well... my relationship with him was long distance relationship and when we were talking can talk some hours. Then when I was in high busy day he told me that he would marry next month, can't say anything about that just like everything gone and wrong. Hoping and trying to asked that only was joke but he never say that it was joke till few days ago. After he begging me to comeback like before then I asked if he is married and the answer is no. Wow... only can smile and maybe laugh. Want to poke his head and say "Big mistake!

Whatever...Let you blow with the wind and forgetting all memories made by you. If someday he found this blog so maybe he will understand about how pain and hurt it was.

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Why you are single?

These days people around me start to asks me why I'm still single while a girl in my age already has kid? Ehm... hard to answer. Usually I just answer that I didn't find my destiny my Mr.Right. Actually I already want to have someone to life together, to share, to care and enjoying life sad and happy together. I'm single not because I'm not trying my Mr. but I'm trying to find him too. Sometime I feel and have question to my self why people seem so easy to found their other half but me feels so hard. 

Many time fails and be broken heart, it was not something joyful, it was hurt too. I was trying many times, I though it was gonna work when I'm trying to date a divorced man because I think he had experience before but it seem he ignore me. And my best friend told me after too much hurt usually you will find your other half soon. But again broken heart and build trust make relationship and broken heart again and back build relationship. Who was wrong? I don't know, but I felt I can't trust them anymore when I felt they become ignore me when their mouth said that they are taking serious relationship with me. Who will believe that they become ignore me when I was like the flower just blossom, need more love and attention but they treat me nothing. I don't want to judge them now, I just a little bit share maybe you are have same feeling with me now.

I just read about the reason why I'm single but no one of them describe my situation now. The mention the reason to be single into 6 points. They are:

1. High standard

2. Negatif

3. Not listening

4. Environment when I live

5. Trap in past memmories

6. I don't want a relationship

Well... see no one of those point describe me. About high standard, ehm... I do have standard but I think it is normal. The best describe about why I'm single now because I don't want to have relationship with someone which I don't like and I didn't find my Mr.. So it is mean some men also asked me but I refuse because I feel I don't like their appearance, spirit, principal, etc. And the bored deal when I like someone almost too much but they don't like me as much as me. Ya... just be patient and keep trying to find him. I'm sure he is also trying and my friend told me don't lower my standard because I'm deserve better. 

Trust and rely everything in God, we are human we only can try and effort the decision and result let God decide and manage it.

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Tips: Dating With Divorced or Widowed Man

Dating and marry is your issue now because you already want to care or live with someone. Then dating or even married with divorced or widowed need a different preparation than dating or marrying with single man. It is important to know if you consider as open minded person because open minded mean you will accept what the way your couple since you know him but also not living or doesn't care with his past.

With the Widowed

If you find a companion of a widower who divorced his wife dead or dying, there are some important things to note. Try to understand that the "ex" will always be come to your lover life, also his son or daughter. So do not ever compare yourself or otherwise replicate your self to her (the deceased).

Better to introduce your own style and who you are. For example, if the deceased housewife is a graceful woman then try introduce you as the cheerful side. This will give a new perspective, while providing a signal you do not want to replace the mother of the children of your partner. Especially for a widower who not too long ago his wife passed away so she still remain a lot in his mind and the kids then try to lift up the energy and atmosphere by expertise that might be required of children after the death of his mother, for example, you cook healthy food, delicious, fast and lunch school with them.

With the Divorced

If you are dating a divorced man and he relates well with ex-wife, then you need to be encouraged. In this condition, usually the former is often arise in the life of your spouse, especially if there are children from first marriage. Whether it is communicate by a phone call or shuttle service transports children to the school, its make the children have to divide their time off, so sometimes they had to meet to discuss various things about the child.

You have to be prepared to deal with and interact with the former is a regular. You do not have to relate familiar with the ex-wife couples, but at least try to have communication with her. Because hostility would bring the former to provoke your children to not accept his new mother.

Divorce and child-rearing duties are also not cheap prices.You have to accept that their financial future is now and will not be entirely to you. For example, it could be he will reduce the dinner with you, because the money being drained to the child's school registration fees or other purposes. Bitter indeed, but this shows responsibility. Another thing, you also need to prepare ourselves with the notion or the bad girl bullies. The divorce itself was very painful. Now, the ex or the kids have to face the new love of his father.

Hope it will help. Courtesy by Kompas.com

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After Knowing Infidelity Spouse: Forgive or Leave?

Many of us would agree with a value, whatever the reason cheating is not justified. Every time you hear the story of a friend who betrayed, you are definitely angry. Never mind, people you know, news of celebrity infidelity alone can make you sympathetic, angry, or hard to criticize an opinion.

Like the case of infidelity that recently made headlines intensively between Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart. After Kristen Stewart apologizes arise Kasak new buzz, if Robert Pattison will forgive her? Is it possibly Robert giving forgiveness to Kristen after a public humiliation?

But in the meantime, what if you are in a similar situation? It might be easy to say "I leave it alone!" or "If I were you I would never forgive!", if the affair is not your spouse. If the he, what the world is not destroyed it?

But after it all happened, he's apologized. It seems really - really and you still love her very much. What's next? Before you take it again there are four things you should consider:

1. Does this happen at all?
You need to know for sure is the case because the affair was a blunder or a long term relationship. He's secretly been in a relationship for months with another woman. Actually, two things are not the reason for him to justify the deed, but if there are children involved (as in the case of director Rupert Sanders is having an affair with a Christian) it could not hurt to be considered. There are ups and downs of relationships, perhaps when there's a defense mechanism he is weak.

2. Whether he admits or you are caught?
If you find through friends or through his email, due to the pain of betrayal will be worse than if he confessed to you directly.

3. Is he going memeberi you the space to recover?
Hurt, angry, disappointed and all the negative feelings that arise from the consequences will not be easily lost perselingkungan by saying sorry. You need space to think and rethink about your relationship. What are you looking for in a relationship? Space is also important to him think about his motives for cheating and actually realized his mistake. You certainly do not want to take it back and then to speak of this matter ngungkit lifetime.

4. Do you really forgive?
This is the hardest part. Even if he had vowed never to repeat it again and you are back together, there will be times when your emotions explode. Worse yet you live in suspicion. It is not only bad for the relationship but also be biting confidence, because you always feel threatened. Convince yourself first, if you can believe again before reconciliation.

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How to make you have a good quality in her eyes?

Well... I just visit in forum about sharing and advice, I found a very good advice which make think yes we are women hope that you all men to be like this. I think this thread make me think that this is also receipt to all men how to know what girls want. Then I remember how to evaluate a man and think this man has good quality. Ok we will talk about it in long paragraph because to understanding girls is not simple and easy.

Girls... she will always become a thing which hard to understand for men because God knew His creatures, God created something with aim. And God created a man with curious and arrogant but God created a girl with soft and complicated. Why? To make you not bored with each other. Maybe my description is too simple but I think it is right, one of the reason why God make women is hard to understand by men because to make men bored or vice versa.

I'm a girl after some men broke my heart I little quite understand about men but this heart is too soft, it is easy to melting with something which impress me. I think it is happened to all girl in this world (always there are except). Although we ever broken heart and get hurt till we tell to our self no more hurt and pain but in fact we have other relationship and forget the crawling and sobbing. So what kind of man that impress us and think that you are a good quality man?

1. Women like a man who know exactly what he want

It is true that women like a man who know with what they want because a man like this has principal life and we become sure to walk together with him. Walk together in here mean that women want to have serious relationship with you. She want to be sure that we will have good future life.

2. Women like a man who know how and exact time when to give surprise

Surprise make women feel special because we are think that you are man want to spend your important time to think and to arrange that surprise. Gift also can be surprise but don't do it too often because it will change to be something routine and bored that is why I give note that you need to know how and when to give surprise.

3. Women like praises

Praise is one of our weakness, many times we are melting because you are men give us praises. But don't give praise to much because it will change something like a crap.We will left you if you only give us non point phrases because we will bored. Just give some praise like when we are already spend times to make us beautiful, our new beautiful dress, delicious cooking, etc.Remember don't give us to much praise because it will make all your praise like bullshit.

4. Love kids

Well... all women who want to have kid really will melt if know her man know to play with kids. Why? Because if we are take relationship for more serious to be married then the action when you play with kids make us feel that you are ready become our kid's daddy and who love kids must have good love in heart.

5. Women like men who have their own taste

Taste in here is not like testing food but taste about fashion, girl, game, romance etc. Ya... we like men who know their own taste like in fashion but it is must make you good looking too. Why good looking? Good looking is very important because we are women like show off, you know what I mean with show off. Show off in here is we are not shy and proud to bring you to our family, friends or comunity.

6. Women like men who know to treat her

Hahahaha... Great point, but maybe you also think how to treat women? Treat us is very large topic because it is content many subjects. But I give you leak, why the playboy are easy to get girl. Just think for a while. Ya... because they know how to make girl melting by their action. You don't need to take course with them but you can see and learn how they treat their girl. If you got the point then I say who don't like if she is become feel lucky because she get caring man who know how treat her?

7. Women like a fighter man

Don't take this point as you need to fight to get your woman but we like you not easy to give up. How hard it is if you are sure can do it then try to do it. Don't ever showing that you are desperate in front her, because it is annoying and make her unsure with you.

8. Don't say that you like shopping because of there is discount

Hahaha... Women like to shopping and become crazy because there is discount on price. But never tell that you like to shopping when discount time to her. I don't know it is happened to all women or not but I feel when a man like to shopping because of discount think that they are cheap. But it will different if you tell like this, "I need something to buy, well... when I visit the shop it is discount then I bought it" or "I saw same item with quality almost same but I choose this one because it is discount" or something like that. If you talk about discount tell it because you need and want that stuff, fortunately it is in discount.

I think those 8 points are enough for now, I'm sleepy and I'm gonna to sleep. Honestly, I'm not a master in relationship but those pints I got when I was trying to open or while in relationship.

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Falling in love with your virtual friend

If you visit this post maybe you are ever felt or falling in love with your virtual friend. Don't worry you are not alone, there are many people who ever felt falling in love with virtual friend. Virtual friend is someone who you know not in real, maybe you know him by chat, social network or philately friends.
I did ever falling in love with virtual friend too. And now it is still happening. I knew him more than 1 year ago.  I sent text to him more than sent text to my bf. Since first time I knew him, my feeling is different with crazy love feeling. Why I said crazy love for other feeling? Because when I realize what I did with them made me feel how stupid I was but my feeling with him is something feel like comfortable to talk and missing when I don't talk with him for 3 days. 

Now he is busy so much, we can't chat as often as before but usually when one of us didn't text for 1 week then will ask news about each other. Yah... actually what I feel like falling in love but we said it is friendship. Maybe in this world other people also has this relationship. Since more than 1 years ago we never meet in real because distance is the reason and by this I'm sure all people will say we both in love, but I say it is better than love. He ever asked me how if I love someone by virtual but when I meet him then I don't like him, should I continue? He asked that because we were arguing about love, he said to me love someone by your mind not by your heart. And I said love is feeling and something it is can't be understand by your mind. Hahaha... he was right, I think. And about his question, I was answered if I meet him and I don't like him then I will try to continue, because if it is work  then why I have to find other? (Hahaha...feel I'm stupid)

Why I still continue with him more than 1 years while I still can't meet him? I only can answer that I don't know because I did try to find other but there are no one like him who want to listen me and help me to find solution whatever problem I shared to him. With him I don't feel like I have to understand him but I feel he is the one who try to understand me. I tried to make him to dumped me by made him angry but he never dumped me. He always clearing everything what made me angry and hate him. Now... when I am typing this I'm afraid if I lost him.

Maybe you are have a question how we can survive without meet each other in real? We both understand that we like each other but we are not focus in love, we are focus in friendship. I know it will painful if one of us will leave other and usually I'm the one who will be left. It is seem that ever been left before, yes I did say in other post before who is left me. I don't know about him but I can ask everything about him to his friend because we both not hiding our friends. And I don't know I'm trust him and I really like him. I hope that he is the one that I looking for and we will meet in real someday. Now maybe it is still not possible because we both still study and didn't earn money quite a lot, but maybe someday we will. I know I love him and really hope he also feel same. He is precious for me and I only can pray for him now.

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Nothing like him

Why like this? Why I can't forget him? Today I feel missing my x so much, I look at his pictures, damn... still I never bored look at him. Why it is like this? We didn't say break, but he just left me. I feel I didn't let him go too, he is still alive, yesterday I added his fb account with my second id. He accepted it, maybe because he don't know that was me. I can't believe if he left me because he don't like me anymore because I read on his fb sometime hi told it is pain. Yes, my x left me because he is sick, really sick. He was diagnose with brain tumor. I think he was thinking that there is no life after, i think he think that he will gonna die. Why he don't want just enjoy be with me? Is he really love me like I love him like stupid like this? I don't know anything about him now, I just saw his newest pictures, I see he is little bit skinny than before. But I saw too that he is still doing his activity like before. Maybe you have question, why I don't try to find him? The answer is simple, I know where he live but my money still not enough to go there. I'm dreaming if I can meet him now. He is very far with me, time different is 15 hours, you can count how far he is with me now. I saw he is still single too.

Really I feel betrayal my bf now, but I'm not sure with my bf too. I know my bf love me but to be with him small chance. And when I saw my bf photos, I feel my x is better than him for everything. I was have relationship with my x only for 3 months and with my bf already 7 months now, but why that 3 months can't be replace with this 7 months. I don't tell to my bf that I still love my x, still hope my x will back too, but here in my heart and mind I still love my x too much. I know it is my problem, I was love my x too much and I was told to my self that stop to search anyone, he is the one that you looking for. I think my soul don't want betrayal my commitment now, or my soul don't want love too much like I was love him, or my soul don't want replace him. I want he can recover be with me or not be with me. I love my MA. MA is his initial and my bf is DAS. I want to forget my x but when I try to forget him then I remember him more. It will past a year after he left me, still hope that he will back to me. He is sweet memory and strong feeling for me, nothing like him. I can't hurt my bf feeling, I tried to leave him because I don't want to hide my feeling for my x, but when I asked him to leave he is become sick and like crazy boy. Ehm... now feel complicated. I feel my life was perfect with my x, and my x told like that too,  hope his pain only test for us, I want him say hi to me again. I want my x comeback to me again. I want him....nothing like him.

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After broke up why it is hard to live without relationship?

Now I feel it is hard to live alone after broke up, I really missing him and feel jealous when I saw other couple happy. Still my bf is the one that I was talking about. Because of him I realize that to live alone without relationship is hard and pain. Maybe this is the reason why mostly women can't stay longer to be single when she ever have bf.  I think to have new bf after xbf can cure the pain and easy to forget the memories with xbf. I see it is different in men, when they already love a women then he will hard to forget and find new gf after he broke up. It is odd too, when a woman married and her husband pass away or been divorced, a woman can stay alone till she dead but mostly a man can't be single for long time after he married then he been divorced or his wife pass away.

It is complicated but some men judge his xgf so easy to forget their memories but he hard to forget it and hard to find new one. I don't how to call this situation but I think it is depend on emotional of the person. For me, after I broke up then I can't live alone for long time, I usually give up to find new bf after broke up about 2 months (it is maximum times I can stay single after broke up). I feel I tried everything to pass the sadness and the loneliness. Sometimes there is a someone come to my life and the we like each other then we become bf-gf, sometimes no one come but I tried to search someone through internet. Yeah I did love cyber, I know it is crazy but sometime I get someone who want to listen me and can made me forget my x. It is enough to erase the pain, after I'm fine to be in single then I  just enjoy to be single. It is hard when my friends who have couple asked me to go with them, really like forever alone.

I never doing sex with all my x, but why it is so hard and pain when he left me. How about they who lost their virginity with their bf then their bf leave her like trash? How pain full of that? With my bf now, I did little bit far than with all x bf before, with my bf now feel more emotional and full of desire, both feeling same but both try to keep virginity. It is sound stupid but it is our commitment, we already in relationship for 7 months but we didn't show both property or even doing sex. We did something sound like sex too but without touching, we did to release our desire which sometime burn us. Yeah.. we did like chat sex or phone sex, but we never show our private property. We only kiss through phone we didn't kiss in real too, we both dreaming to do that but not dare to touch each other. Sometime we both also crazy, so hard to control our desire, we want to see each other property, I can to keep mine secret but it seem he want to show but when he will show I said to him, don't show to me till you marry me.

For us it is important to keep both virginity because we think if we won't marry then we didn't lose any but if we will marry then he can be mine and I'm his. It is really hard but we try. I feel this is better but everything is up to you in relationship. Because everything is your responsible, everything you did is your risk but I choose to decrease risk.

I don't know if my bf will be my husband or not, but with him really I feel to much test, emotion and desire. Hope can keep our commitment till the time answer what we should to do.  Miss him now, he is back to his country, only can see his text 1 or 2 times a day. Why hard to leave when I feel love him, I don't like if he will leave when I'm in love with him like other xbf who left me when I was so mad on them because it was so hurt and pain.

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The reasons why your boyfriend have not applied you

After a long relationship with him, it is not wrong if you expect that he will take you to get married. The only problem is sometimes he makes you wait too long until you asks him to marry you. When you are ready to enter the next level, but he has not moved to invite you for marry, maybe you can see the reason behind it all.

1. Phobias
Maybe there's nothing to worry about when he asks you to be his lover. But marriage is another issue for him. Marriage is essentially a lifetime often frightened him, because marriage is the culmination of a commitment. That concern is not because he did not really love you, but due to the  temporary fear. There is still a chance he'll change his mind.

However, women often become too tired of waiting and finally think that he already do not like her anymore. However, a strong commitment will help to overcome this. Get her talking, and ask what is the fear. Show him that you are committed to sharing love with each other so that time can be skipped.

2. Afraid to be lost of freedom
Many men are afraid to marry because of the shadow of the failure of a marriage that often they see on television, or from the experiences of parents and friends. Sometimes they feel afraid to be controlled by their wives, so they will not be free to do anything. Naturally, when he was worried, because no one wants to be in a marriage where there is one person who controls another person. To fix this, tell him about your dream wedding and family who want you coached with him.

3. Fear of divorce
Many young couples who were not able to uphold their commitments, so finally decided to divorce. And, couples assume that divorce can happen when you both get married. Communication plays a very important role in healthy relationships. Talk about this divorce, and say that he need not worry about this. If you can establish good communication, a sense of mutual trust, mutual understanding, and mutual commitment to your marriage life, to what to think about divorce?

4. Not ready
And mental qualities themselves before entering the gates of marriage is very necessary. The time needed to prepare for each person was different. He needs more time to prepare themselves and mental qualities to be married than women.

5. He did not want to marry you
When he is old does not ask you to marry him, then chances are he was already comfortable with the current situation, and do not want to change it. He believes that marriage can change his habits, his values, arguably his whole life, so he would not do it. One sign that you can see from his actions when he used to divert your questions about marriage. When this event is often the case, then should you decide to stay with him or not.

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Still hope my x will comeback

Sorry for everyone who maybe finding this post, I just want release my pain because I have bf who always like to say would leave me forever, I always let him to go when he said that, then when he left I feel hurt too. I don't thinking that he will leave as easy as that after he did hurt me but I always can accept if he really want to go because already too much fighting between us.

I did told about my bad past but he always mention those and made me feel angry and feel very bad when he in anger, I told those to him because I hope I can forget those and have a mind that those mistake was a not big mistake. And I don't like to feel these feeling which made me weak when he asked to comeback for our relationship.

I want to be strong and cold then I can leave him easy because he already hurt me too much. But always fail after he bag for forgiveness. Maybe I'm too much nice or weak or what? I feel torturing with this situation, but why I always feel like loser because I can't really kick this situation. Sometime I missed my x who diagnosed with brain tumor stage 3, I feel really lose him, I want to care him while he is sick but he choose to disappear and I can't find him now. Last time I heard that he moved to Fiji, it is so far from my place, I can't found him. When with him, I was happy. He is very patient, good looking, has good body(athletic type), tall, nice, independent, confident and has great smile, I was feel so save and very small too. I was feel very lucky when I met him. Maybe he is not the last one but I was feel so perfect and he was felt that too. We were too much happy but I feel really lose him now.

Sometimes I am crying and hope him will comeback. I felt, he is the one that I'm looking for, is enough to find other boy because he is complete me more than your expectation (it was like that). When we were talking feel like very lucky for found him. Yes it was like that, he told me that he was feel that too. I miss the time when I'm with him. It was no fight that made me too much hurt. It was like good moment in my life.

Actually I also thinking, if my x is not for me then let me forget him and have good life. But my bf now can't be like him, because he is not him. Too much fighting, too much hurting and too much crying, I never felt like this with other boys before. He did same mistakes again and again and hurt me more again and again. I want he really leave me when he decided to leave me because when together will fight always. If I compare my x with my bf, feel like my bf is nothing. My x more than my bf, I felt my x is the best one than boys which ever come to my life. I miss my x. I really hope he will comeback and healthy. Please let me to forget him if I don't have a chance to be with him again, if he is not for me. for my M : I miss you........... (T_T)

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Overcome saturation in the relationship

It is natural that the couple did not you ever feel as attractive as it used to be. Eits .. do not necessarily rush to find a replacement, dear! It's just a sign you are at the saturation point of a relationship really. Take a look at doing some simple things the following, for a sensation that is not less exciting with new times you are going with him first. Let's try!

Set aside time for Yourself

Perhaps you've been too often spend time with your partner. Try doing the occasional "me time", such as going to the latest spa, take a complete treatment package from head to toe. And yes, without the presence of a partner of course. If your body is pampered with a myriad of relaxation like this, you definitely will not forget when you're feeling bored with the him.

Change The Routines 

If you have only two dates, this time invite your friend to double (or maybe triple) date. Play the latest DVD, prepare wine, order pizza, and enjoy! But make sure you invite friends who have similar interests with you and your partner. So everybody Will be happy then.

Find a New Place

Malls, cinemas, and restaurants to be places you've been dating? Boooring! Occasionally you may be planning a date that is more adventurous, such as to invite the couple to enjoy a series of outbound activities that test the adrenaline. Superfun guaranteed after this action, you and he will again feel the vibrations which is long gone.

Awaken Memories of the Past

Restoring the memory of early relationships may raise your vibration back to the couple. Take your time to unload the goods which had given him. You might just find a greeting card from a year ago when your spouse work out of town that read, "Hurry home, yes, honey ...". Or you remember the face of panic takes you to the hospital at the time you experience a high fever. Simple things that you realize how the he is your privilege.

Vacationing Together

Try it to plan a vacation to the beach, enjoy the beautiful sand interspersed with warm kisses while welcoming the sunset, or select the area of ​​the city tour by exploring the uniqueness in it with a partner. See it, instead of you remember when you're bored with the relationship, excitement that you feel sure no less fun when she invites you for a first date. (Dian Puspitasari / II / Image: doc. Google)

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The types of men from how they try to impress a woman

Hi girls... It is good to know how the men try to impress the women. From many source like female magazine mention that each type of men has different style to impress a girl/woman that he like. Here some typical of how men impress women:

1. Classical
The man who seduced in this way still adhere to the principle of "man the hunter". So in the pursuit of love, he preferred to act as a chaser. That's why, he was not too interested in women's aggressive in stating the content of the liver.

This type uses a simple and very readable pattern when approaching someone. For example, the man who originally indifferent suddenly began diligently to show little concern. If he's caught the same signal, he will not hesitate to express love.

Flirt flagship of them: "I eat yet?" "Home office at what time?" "You're A time tonight? Can I pick?"

How to seduce like this shows that he is a man who was responsible and understand you. However, he did not like rush says "I Love You" because he wants to know you further. If his efforts to entice you succeed, he will be committed and will not let you just like that.

2. Palpable
No matter target women liked him or not, aggressive or passive, which is obviously a man who did this kind of seduction can be spelled "know what she wants". He did not like the approach that long and wordy. He also likes to show concern with concrete actions, such as sending beautiful gifts. He also likes to tell others that he likes you. He did not easily give up to get your love.

Flirt favorite of this type include: "You're so beautiful" or "I love you". What did he say, that is what is felt. Attitudes to the point it illustrates that he was a man who did not adventurous.

3. Drama
Similar to the previous type, but the difference this type of seduction men often exaggerated and flowery. Not only are the romantic attitude, his words could make you "melt" immediately.

Men of this type are usually able to convince the hearts of women with a variety of tricks that he played. For example, you buy flowers, romantic dinner, take you home, and give attention to millions of film-like drama of love.

The most good he makes seduction like this, "Daddy you're a pilot you? Heart I always fly when with you". Flirt like it was sincere from the heart. Limited only to satisfy the desires and ego have to be a man who wants a lot of women.

4. Polite
This type of seduction style men cling to much of the manners and sexual elements. Although this style tend to be unattractive and shy, but the man who launched a petition like this indicates he had never played around with love.

The he tended more to send a covert signal. Secretly stealing glances and not too comfortable when other people know his feelings. Flirt flagship: "The house we are in line yes ..." or "Yesterday I could ticket, but do not know who would be given"

Actually, the he wants you to be more aggressive, understand what he felt no need to pronounce it clearly.

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Signs your love unrequited

Currently we are exploring the relationships, the big question that arises is, "Does he/she have the same feeling?" Sometimes these questions can make us dizzy, pale, lazy and afraid for being push away. Do not be worry and afraid boys-girls because girl/boy that you are in date must give you sign. Watch correctly the sign. Well... Greg Hartley help you with the signs, Greg Hartley is a former investigator of a special unit in the United States who is also the author of the book I Can Read You Like a Book: How to Spot the Message and Emotions People Are Really Sending With Their Body Language, body language, eye contact, and touch, could be a clue that is easier for us. Hartley helps us read the four signs that we must find a date, to find out whether he could be a lover's heart.

Signs 1: Consider the distance created

"First and foremost, see how he created the distance when talking to us", said Hartley. So, if the other person at a date we do not feel comfortable to talk with close proximity, it could be a sign that he does not think a more intimate relationship. But if the opposite happens, then it shows he did not just want to know us as friends.

Signs 2: Consider the tone of his voice

If your date we speak with soft tones, according to Hartley it is a good sign. "Because he wanted us just to hear his words. Especially if he wants to share a secret, it means he is already comfortable". Then how should we respond to the situation? Hartley suggested that we stay calm, "Do not just show us the upper hand. Because sometimes it is better to make a man wonder if we have the same taste with him".

Signs 3: Notice how her posture when speaking

Masculinity own form of body language, that is the way with well-built, open shoulders with your chin perpendicular, to successfully create a strong impression. But this only happens if they were to be between men. When dealing with women, especially women who are attracted his attention, the male will be slightly bent so that his posture looks like a little circular. Hartley interpret this as a signal from the male to provide protection to women who had been invited to speak. Shoulders are slightly skewed to create a short distance, the listener, while giving the impression of protecting. "This is a positive sign that he is completely comfortable with you."

Signs 4: Always make eye contact

If your date look that we always provide shade whenever he saw us, then it is a good sign. "That means, he is really fascinated with you and ready to go into a more serious level. So, give a little smile to her happy, "Hartley suggested. For we who can read the sign, then the decision is in our hands. Choose, whether we are worthy of a date selected as a sweetheart or not. Complete this sign with the words our hearts so that the best choice out of our heads.

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Meet the candidates laws?

It must be admitted that the love story continues whether or not you can be known after a meeting with the parents of her/his. One bit of attitude, it could be your relationship and even his family did not go smoothly. As a workaround, follow these tricks:

1. We met the mother-in-law, apply the 3P.
What is 3P? Yes ladies, praise, praise, and praise. No need to overdo it. You can praise her worn clothing, cooking is super yummy, or ... responded positively about their child(your lover). Simple is not it?

2. Forget all that you do not like.
No need to keep the image and certainly not to be self-centered. At the beginning of the meeting, the subject must be more about the lovers or mother. The mother likes to knit? Maybe you could like.

3. Ask questions that are safe, he is such a childhood.
Besides the answer will be interesting, you also can avoid mother of all questions that make you nervous.


4. Save a MOPs.
Yep, better known as MOPs or making out in public. Because there are many who think this is not polite. Especially if you show it in front of his parents? Guaranteed, not even hot like seeing your behavior!


5. A mother usually wants to show that he knows better character than your son.
So, when her mother was telling him about your favorite menu or even a bad habit. All you have to do is listen, agreed, and laughed. (Lidya / Cosmopolitan)

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Your sweetheart very forgetful? These the solutions!

Let alone remember the date or invented the first film you watch to him or her at the beginning of a relationship, the promise of dinner he spoke just before leaving for work he had forgotten. Annoying? Sure! But you do not need too long soluble in pique because Cosmo had a surefire way to "refresh" his memory.



1. Prepare Reminder

Write down your plan later after work with a partner, such as dinner or sex session. Use sticky notes with bright colors, then put in an easy to reach, can in the bathroom, the refrigerator door, or briefcase. He's definitely going to see small objects are very eye catching.

2. Put Items In Place

If he often forgot his wallet, car keys, cell phones, or even his glasses, then you should have a place to store items needed day to day. Well, if the goods are in the same place every day, this will makes him easier to remember.


3. Visualize You and your partner eager to realize the plan to a romantic island?

Well, so that these plans do not end up a mess, make it "remember" if you and he has a purpose. Paste a picture of the island as you want it in his office, tuck a paper "We will be here!" Under the picture. Besides reminding, that image will also be motivated, darling!


4. Stay Healthy

Make sure your partner is getting enough rest, exercising regularly and eating nutritious foods for memory. Option can be raw carrots and fresh fruit. Do you know? All these things can well contribute to keep the works of his memory.



5. Refresh mind

Nagging you certainly will not efficacious for the cure to its forgetful. So try to be more patient slowly to remind him. Perhaps he often forgot because he was tired. To that end, avoid the middle of a tense of alone moment. (Lidya Irawati / Cosmopolitan)

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