After Knowing Infidelity Spouse: Forgive or Leave?

Many of us would agree with a value, whatever the reason cheating is not justified. Every time you hear the story of a friend who betrayed, you are definitely angry. Never mind, people you know, news of celebrity infidelity alone can make you sympathetic, angry, or hard to criticize an opinion.

Like the case of infidelity that recently made headlines intensively between Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart. After Kristen Stewart apologizes arise Kasak new buzz, if Robert Pattison will forgive her? Is it possibly Robert giving forgiveness to Kristen after a public humiliation?

But in the meantime, what if you are in a similar situation? It might be easy to say "I leave it alone!" or "If I were you I would never forgive!", if the affair is not your spouse. If the he, what the world is not destroyed it?

But after it all happened, he's apologized. It seems really - really and you still love her very much. What's next? Before you take it again there are four things you should consider:

1. Does this happen at all?
You need to know for sure is the case because the affair was a blunder or a long term relationship. He's secretly been in a relationship for months with another woman. Actually, two things are not the reason for him to justify the deed, but if there are children involved (as in the case of director Rupert Sanders is having an affair with a Christian) it could not hurt to be considered. There are ups and downs of relationships, perhaps when there's a defense mechanism he is weak.

2. Whether he admits or you are caught?
If you find through friends or through his email, due to the pain of betrayal will be worse than if he confessed to you directly.

3. Is he going memeberi you the space to recover?
Hurt, angry, disappointed and all the negative feelings that arise from the consequences will not be easily lost perselingkungan by saying sorry. You need space to think and rethink about your relationship. What are you looking for in a relationship? Space is also important to him think about his motives for cheating and actually realized his mistake. You certainly do not want to take it back and then to speak of this matter ngungkit lifetime.

4. Do you really forgive?
This is the hardest part. Even if he had vowed never to repeat it again and you are back together, there will be times when your emotions explode. Worse yet you live in suspicion. It is not only bad for the relationship but also be biting confidence, because you always feel threatened. Convince yourself first, if you can believe again before reconciliation.

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