It's too late, don't ever say a joke which become your big mistake that you will regret forever

So long not updating this blog when I choose to stay in silence. There is something that I want to write in here in this blog. Don't judge anything in here because it is my personal blog, I can write whatever I want and I think it is not harmful anyone.

Its still about my x who just asked me to be his love again but I said to him that it's late. Ya.. It is late to ask me to comeback to him after the pains and hurts, it is too late when I already feel that everything is fine without him. Ya it is too late when I did asked many times that it was joke but he pretend say nothing.

If you were me, your bf said that he will marry next month and after that everything is like upside down, falling and gloomy, don't want to talk to anyone and regret every sacrifices, it was pain because he didn't say anything about that girl except she is better in everything on me. Do you will accept him again if all that he said it was joke after 7 months missing contact? I rejected it, because it is too late. I don't see there is a beautiful about him anymore maybe it was too hurt because he did that when I was busy preparing my final project in the last chance of the reporting and beside that I was busy preparing my sister wedding too. I was asked 1 month to break to prepare all of that but he was refused that so I was still trying to divide my attention to him. Well... my relationship with him was long distance relationship and when we were talking can talk some hours. Then when I was in high busy day he told me that he would marry next month, can't say anything about that just like everything gone and wrong. Hoping and trying to asked that only was joke but he never say that it was joke till few days ago. After he begging me to comeback like before then I asked if he is married and the answer is no. Wow... only can smile and maybe laugh. Want to poke his head and say "Big mistake!

Whatever...Let you blow with the wind and forgetting all memories made by you. If someday he found this blog so maybe he will understand about how pain and hurt it was.

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What you have to consider before divorce?

No one like divorce but sometime marriage couple can't save their marriage anymore, they choose to divorce because some reason. Divorce is not easy problem but it is serious problem, whatever the condition, reason and situation which make marriages decide to divorce only between them who knows exactly. It is very important to consider some aspects before decide to divorce. Couples who decide to divorce need support so they must consider these points:

1.  What you will lose out after the divorce?
Divorce mean a big change in your life. A changing in every part such as income, health insurance, and sometime also house. Ask to yourself whether you are ready to stand alone in all that things? Are you ready for more sacrifice? Are you have enough social relation which make you easy to have a chance to cover all your need, like job and business relation? Just think when you are marriage maybe you have your own income but if you were not the one who handle expend for 100% then maybe there will be financial problem after divorce. Well.. this is maybe not the most important thing but you have to consider it so will be ready if you lost some of your shopping or travel leisure.  

2. After divorce will you more happy?
Maybe you are on depress time that you want to end all the burden but you have to think that divorce will make you more stress. It is mean decide to divorce without thinking it seriously is just like follow the anger and emotion. Many women surprise after the divorce because their unhappy feeling still not gone yet for example some celebrity like Halle Berry, Nicole Kidman, Emma Thompson are for the example that after the divorce they suffer depress and stress. So be honest about evaluating yourself and imagine what will happen after the divorce, the feeling, the situation, the loneliness and other. Just think after the divorce do you ready to be alone in social life when your friends look happy with their couple, do you ready that looking new partner will not easy and do you ready even you have many friend but they can't make the sadness gone? You will help yourself after the divorce even you have good physician, friends, social and family?

3. What will happen with kids after the divorce?
If you have kid then your problem after divorce will bigger because you not only help yourself to be happy but also your kid. Divorce will really effect in kids emotional, many kids not ready their parent divorce. The conflict about who will be the one who care the kid is really depressing the kids. Sometime they more stress and depress because they still can't control their emotion. So before decide to divorce you have to consider about your kid and you also try to make  less conflict about it. And think it if your kid not on your side, do you ready to be part away from them? 

4. Did you try to save the marriage?
Many people choose to divorce because they feel not happy with their marriage. There is no wrong if feel not happy because feeling not happy can be the indication what wrong in your marriage life and have to be fix soon. You can learn and try to light up the condition make it full of joy and fun together with your partner. It is very important to try to save the marriage together with your partner because if your partner not  take part to save the marriage then it is useless because you can work alone in the job which need two person to fix it.

Well... I'm sure before you decide to divorce you did try to fix all the problem and try to save it. But you have to consider it even if you get new partner there is no guarantee that you will get the perfect marriage and be happy, usually after the divorce there will be divorce in next marriage relationship sometime there will be 3 times marriage because after the 3td they learn how to save the marriage. In marriage it is not like when you were in bf-gf relationship, in marriage you need to be 1000x patient because in bf-gf relationship you only saw the good things but after marriage you will see all completely. Hope you will not easy to decide divorce, there is wises word from the old couples that the only die which can separated them.

In my time we never change any thing with something new when it is broken but we try to patch it and use it again if it is still work.

Think about that. Thanks for reading.

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