No one like divorce but sometime marriage couple can't save their marriage anymore, they choose to divorce because some reason. Divorce is not easy problem but it is serious problem, whatever the condition, reason and situation which make marriages decide to divorce only between them who knows exactly. It is very important to consider some aspects before decide to divorce. Couples who decide to divorce need support so they must consider these points:
1. What you will lose out after the divorce?
Divorce mean a big change in your life. A changing in every part such as income, health insurance, and sometime also house. Ask to yourself whether you are ready to stand alone in all that things? Are you ready for more sacrifice? Are you have enough social relation which make you easy to have a chance to cover all your need, like job and business relation? Just think when you are marriage maybe you have your own income but if you were not the one who handle expend for 100% then maybe there will be financial problem after divorce. Well.. this is maybe not the most important thing but you have to consider it so will be ready if you lost some of your shopping or travel leisure.
2. After divorce will you more happy?
Maybe you are on depress time that you want to end all the burden but you have to think that divorce will make you more stress. It is mean decide to divorce without thinking it seriously is just like follow the anger and emotion. Many women surprise after the divorce because their unhappy feeling still not gone yet for example some celebrity like Halle Berry, Nicole Kidman, Emma Thompson are for the example that after the divorce they suffer depress and stress. So be honest about evaluating yourself and imagine what will happen after the divorce, the feeling, the situation, the loneliness and other. Just think after the divorce do you ready to be alone in social life when your friends look happy with their couple, do you ready that looking new partner will not easy and do you ready even you have many friend but they can't make the sadness gone? You will help yourself after the divorce even you have good physician, friends, social and family?
3. What will happen with kids after the divorce?
If you have kid then your problem after divorce will bigger because you not only help yourself to be happy but also your kid. Divorce will really effect in kids emotional, many kids not ready their parent divorce. The conflict about who will be the one who care the kid is really depressing the kids. Sometime they more stress and depress because they still can't control their emotion. So before decide to divorce you have to consider about your kid and you also try to make less conflict about it. And think it if your kid not on your side, do you ready to be part away from them?
4. Did you try to save the marriage?
Many people choose to divorce because they feel not happy with their marriage. There is no wrong if feel not happy because feeling not happy can be the indication what wrong in your marriage life and have to be fix soon. You can learn and try to light up the condition make it full of joy and fun together with your partner. It is very important to try to save the marriage together with your partner because if your partner not take part to save the marriage then it is useless because you can work alone in the job which need two person to fix it.
Well... I'm sure before you decide to divorce you did try to fix all the problem and try to save it. But you have to consider it even if you get new partner there is no guarantee that you will get the perfect marriage and be happy, usually after the divorce there will be divorce in next marriage relationship sometime there will be 3 times marriage because after the 3td they learn how to save the marriage. In marriage it is not like when you were in bf-gf relationship, in marriage you need to be 1000x patient because in bf-gf relationship you only saw the good things but after marriage you will see all completely. Hope you will not easy to decide divorce, there is wises word from the old couples that the only die which can separated them.
1. What you will lose out after the divorce?
Divorce mean a big change in your life. A changing in every part such as income, health insurance, and sometime also house. Ask to yourself whether you are ready to stand alone in all that things? Are you ready for more sacrifice? Are you have enough social relation which make you easy to have a chance to cover all your need, like job and business relation? Just think when you are marriage maybe you have your own income but if you were not the one who handle expend for 100% then maybe there will be financial problem after divorce. Well.. this is maybe not the most important thing but you have to consider it so will be ready if you lost some of your shopping or travel leisure.
2. After divorce will you more happy?
Maybe you are on depress time that you want to end all the burden but you have to think that divorce will make you more stress. It is mean decide to divorce without thinking it seriously is just like follow the anger and emotion. Many women surprise after the divorce because their unhappy feeling still not gone yet for example some celebrity like Halle Berry, Nicole Kidman, Emma Thompson are for the example that after the divorce they suffer depress and stress. So be honest about evaluating yourself and imagine what will happen after the divorce, the feeling, the situation, the loneliness and other. Just think after the divorce do you ready to be alone in social life when your friends look happy with their couple, do you ready that looking new partner will not easy and do you ready even you have many friend but they can't make the sadness gone? You will help yourself after the divorce even you have good physician, friends, social and family?
3. What will happen with kids after the divorce?
If you have kid then your problem after divorce will bigger because you not only help yourself to be happy but also your kid. Divorce will really effect in kids emotional, many kids not ready their parent divorce. The conflict about who will be the one who care the kid is really depressing the kids. Sometime they more stress and depress because they still can't control their emotion. So before decide to divorce you have to consider about your kid and you also try to make less conflict about it. And think it if your kid not on your side, do you ready to be part away from them?
4. Did you try to save the marriage?
Many people choose to divorce because they feel not happy with their marriage. There is no wrong if feel not happy because feeling not happy can be the indication what wrong in your marriage life and have to be fix soon. You can learn and try to light up the condition make it full of joy and fun together with your partner. It is very important to try to save the marriage together with your partner because if your partner not take part to save the marriage then it is useless because you can work alone in the job which need two person to fix it.
Well... I'm sure before you decide to divorce you did try to fix all the problem and try to save it. But you have to consider it even if you get new partner there is no guarantee that you will get the perfect marriage and be happy, usually after the divorce there will be divorce in next marriage relationship sometime there will be 3 times marriage because after the 3td they learn how to save the marriage. In marriage it is not like when you were in bf-gf relationship, in marriage you need to be 1000x patient because in bf-gf relationship you only saw the good things but after marriage you will see all completely. Hope you will not easy to decide divorce, there is wises word from the old couples that the only die which can separated them.
In my time we never change any thing with something new when it is broken but we try to patch it and use it again if it is still work.Think about that. Thanks for reading.
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