People come to here may ever had same problem with me. It was hard to move on because still had the feeling and it was made me look that I was still loving him and he acted like fly in the sky with that. He was hurt me more and more. When I met him, he was showing that his new girl is better than me but it seem he was always looking for me. I didn't know exactly what was his aim but when I met him and talked with him, it seemed he turn me to angry and hurt. Finally I decide to go and meet him anymore, maybe it is wrong but I can do that why I have to stay in hurt. If you can't leave your place then maybe these tips will help you. 6 things to avoid when you are meet your x.
1. Avoidance
You go into a restaurant and see the former was sitting at the table right. Nervous and did not want to see her, you turn back and exit. This step is wrong, because if you "run away" when he saw you (or a friend sees you and then tell him), he will actually had the upper hand, because the impression gained is that you can not yet ready to move on and not having to meet him.
What to do:
if he looked at you, just smile. Over and say hello to the friendly, and may ask polite questions like, "How are you?". No need to linger, leave it immediately afterwards, "I went there, yes. Daah!" This way you look fine and as if your life continues as normal without him.
2. Angry / upset
Okay, maybe you still hurt him. Perhaps you feel you have not solved the problem. But if the relationship is already over, never mind forget it. Useless you also still get angry, yet not be able to make him take back the.
What to do:
When I met him again and all the negative emotions suddenly peaked, take a deep breath in, slowly out, and force your lips to smile. If you can not help feeling emotional (angry, upset, or crying), immediately excused himself well.
3. Sat down to chat for long
If you and your ex had broken up for years and happened to meet again, please just sit down and coffee together and talked for hours. But if she decided only a week ago and you have not been able to move on, do not get is looking for trouble by trying to elongate-manjangkan chat with him. It may be that he is not comfortable, or you are even more difficult to forget, or you are involved in a fight even longer.
What to do:
keep it short but sweet. Simply ask the fundamental question alias further ado, then end with the good. If your feelings are neutral to him again, then you can sit down to chat for hours with no one to harbor a grudge.
4. Show-off romance with another man
You just split up but are close to another man, who is more handsome than the ex anyway? Happy, yes. But it does not mean you can make your ex girlfriend jealous by hugging openly. Bersimpatilah on his feelings. After all, making out with a new man shortly after the break up was not too good impact on your image, right?
So even if you happened to be the way with men friends (just friends) and then suddenly met the former. Do not use the friend who knows nothing is to make the ex jealous. Act as usual, do not be excessively affectionate.
What to do:
if you meet the former and the chance was with a male friend, he introduced it as usual, without needing a lot of frills. "Kenalin, Reza." Secured the former would be curious and to wonder who he really is.
5. Forget the appearance
No need to dress up a scene, but every time I leave home, make sure you wear clothes that are neat, decent, and unsightly, as well as facial hair well groomed and neatly arranged. So if a sudden unexpected meeting people such as ex-girlfriend, you will not be too panicky.
What to do:
This not only applies to those that recently ended and potentially meet the former. We will never know when we will meet someone important and influential for our future, and too bad if the opportunity was wasted just because we're disorganized appearance. So, before leaving the house, Reflect and ask yourself, "It's not pretty, huh?"
6. Swept past
You can almost forget about it, but when I met him by chance in a mall and talked a little, taste it slowly up again. You then wonder, "What should revert yes?" Be careful, this is the greatest danger of meeting with the former: to make you interested in returning to the past.
What to do:
remember again why you want to break up yesterday. Or to remember again how you feel hurt when he asked for break up. Think about why, and ask yourself if you want to experience it again? Remind yourself, the only way to move on is to move forward, rather than constantly looking back.
Hope those tips are help.
Hope those tips are help.
